“On the domestic violence front Covid-19 crisis has added to the miseries of the conflict torn women”By Mumin Khan Turk
Domestic violence also called intimate partner violence occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse. Domestic violence can happen in heterosexual or same-sex relationships.
Abusive relationships always involve an imbalance of power and control. An abuser uses intimidating, hurtful words and behaviors to control his or her partner.
It might not be easy to identify domestic violence at first. While some relationships are clearly abusive from the outset, abuse often starts subtly and gets worse over time. You might be experiencing domestic violence if you’re in a relationship with someone who:
Calls you names, insults you or puts you down.
Prevents or discourages you from going to work or school or seeing family members or friends.
Tries to control how you spend money, where you go, what medicines you take or what you wear.
Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful.
Gets angry when drinking alcohol or using drugs.
Tries to control whether you can see a health care provider.
Threatens you with violence or a weapon
Hits, kicks, shoves, slaps, chokes or otherwise hurts you, your children or your pets.
Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will.
Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it.
Threatens to tell friends, family, colleagues or community members your sexual orientation or gender Identity.
In the current crisis the graph of domestic violence demonstrates an all-time alteration across the whole globe due to the main reason of Covid-19 specific domestic violence has till now been the surging rise in unemployment levels. Unemployment caused to the male members of the family pushes them in panic and to vent their frustrations they switch to domestic violence. Contrary to this, women losing jobs become more vulnerable as they lose their financial independence.
The situation in India is no better. Recent data by National Legal Service Authority [NALSA] suggest that the nationwide lockdown has led to a rapid increase in domestic violence. According to an article by Times Of India, Uttarakhand has recorded highest number of cases in last two months followed by Haryana and Delhi. Reports revealed that since the start of lockdown till 15 of May 144 cases of domestic violence were reported in Uttarakhand, 79 from Haryana and 69 from Delhi. According to another article published in Hindustan Times complaints of domestic violence have decreased in states like Rajasthan, Madhya Pradesh and Telangana during COVID -1.Yet there is a significant increase in such cases in states like Punjab. Punjab State Commission for Women [PSCW] stated that they have been receiving an average of 30 complaints everyday related to domestic violence since March 22 of this year. National Commission for Women [NCW] has registered 250 complaints related to domestic violence between the 25th of March and 22nd April 2020. An alarming number of 400 cases of domestic violence were received on Whatsapp by NCW all this while.
Eventually due to this Global Pandemic people for most part have been restricted to the domains of their houses. While the global population is witnessing this lockdown almost for the very first time, the people residing in the region of Jammu and Kashmir are witnessing less changes in their ways of life. The instances of lockdown of various natures and rules have been a regular part and parcel of the lives of the people of this Conflict Zone. Over the years, coping strategies have either evolved or have been developed by people to get along with the realities of their circumstances and normalize their lives over the typical realism.
However, this time some strings have been pulled for the first time. Over the years, as part of the coping mechanism and tactics, many people have moved out from the Valley. They have been doing businesses across the globe and others have been doing a paid job. Not only have these people managed a good life and living standard for them but at the same time increasing remittances have been finding way home. With the pandemic in place people globally have lost both jobs and businesses. Instances like financial constraints, unemployment, uncertainties, conflict pressure, Post-Stress Traumatic Disorder and Anxiety like conditions that already exist because of the conflict have aggravated. The easiest way to vent such frustrations being harsh on the subordinates of the households, the instances of domestic violence have shown an increase in the Valley of Kashmir as well.
Officials in Women’s Commission revealed that there has been an increase in the number of reports they received from mid-March 2020 onwards. They claim that they receive more than twenty complaints daily since the onset of the lockdown. The trend seems to go up than stagnate or go down, obviously being correlated with the increasing number of crisis, miseries and hardships that passing days of lockdown are harbingers of. The lone Women’s Police Station in Srinagar informs that they have also been receiving increasing number of cases since the onset of the pandemic related lockdown. According to the data available with them it is clear that the number of cases have more than doubled over these months. This increasing trend can be seen in each district of the Valley.
On the domestic violence front Covid-19 crisis has added to the miseries of the conflict torn women. The stress level and anxiety has increased amongst them. Questioning a set of women from different social and economic set-ups we get a mixed response. While some women blame their fate, most women believe that the absence of peace in this part of the world has had a lifelong toll on their households, their male family members and of course on their own health and lives. Each individual has the right to life and as such no instance of domestic or any other sort of violence with any person discrete of gender, social group or any other classification is insupportable and intolerable. This is a known data and there are certain cases which are unreported and most of the women’s doesn’t come on front beacuse of self respect, they think that after saying this publicly society will start bitching about them which is the main reason that it’s surging so rapidly. If you will not say it then who will ? Someone has to take a stand someone has to come on front to be a voice for those who are living under such conditions since years and are being miserably tortured physically or mentally.
You can be a voice for them, don’t let yourself suffer don’t let you family suffer, you get married to your husband not with your In laws. It’s a growing menace in our society if we will not raise awareness about it then time it not far when we will have to see sucide cases daily it’s my humble request to all those who are victims of Domestic Violence abuse to report it to concerned authorities or police, I am also willing to help you people personally if you come across such case Please email on firstname.lastname@example.org