Life at times is cruel, getting paralyzed at the age of eleven and whole life to live can be a horror filled journey but God’s do send messengers to help!
‘In this small kid’s case they definitely did. Could be her parents prayed for divine intervention or could be that the invisible force that drives mankind and all the things on the planet thought that this eleven years small girl needed a helping hand and she should be helped out and she was! We all understand the intricacies of life. Free will is our destiny, but so is divine intervention. How this will define our life journey is up to us. We either make wise choices for our highest good, or the Divine will make it for us. When there is favor in your life, God will always place people on your path to help you along the way. This kid Aafiya Ishaaq was paralyzed and the limbs that would make her move were functionless and the whole life stood staring at her and she had to travel the distance with all the twists and turns. Doing it alone would have been a difficult and an impossible task but someone invisible was watching her from somewhere, perhaps from the heavens and then the miracle happened….. She did not expect it but the same had to and it did….’
-‘ At the moment this girl from village Marwa in Kupwara is too small to understand as to what has happened to her. She had been born with a disability but her mom and dad gave all her love as any small kid deserves but they also knew that she would be in a huge simmering pot of problems in the future as she grows up. So perhaps they would have been telling her with all the love that she has to be grateful for the adversities you face in life, because each experience is uniquely designed just for you. We know that it is bad that you cannot jump and bounce about like other kids, we know how desperately you want to walk and play but that is one part of the story, the other is that you have to move in life because it’s you who have to fight. Be patient, keep smiling because God’s cannot be that cruel, they always have something special for everyone in store……. Perhaps their premonition was correct as they arrived and something did happen…..’
It takes a lot of confidence, and self-love and self-worth to realize that you are capable. And that you have every right to leave your lane, and to do things in the same way that other people do. Aafiya’s parents had imbibed that spirit in her. Though she was paralyzed, unable to move she always kept smiling. She knew that she had been born with the wretched luck but the heavens had not fallen over. The best thing was that her mother loved her and father adored her. But the parents very well know with the experience they have gathered over the time they have lived is that the most upsetting thing about society’s attitude towards disabled people is that many millions of disabled people became disabled while trying to please the society for accepting them. Was this small little girl’s fate going to be similar? Kupwara is not the place it was once. Now it’s a happening town and the people are on fast wheels making all the right kind of noises. Aafiya for the moment wasn’t making any but with a little bit of help she could also be out there roaring, but the question was that from where would it be arriving if it ever did? Her parents kept her morale upbeat by giving her pepping up talks so that even being small she always thought in her solitude, ‘everything is temporary, almost like a passing phase, some of laughter, some of pain, some would say I’m selfish, to hold a little sadness in my eyes, but they don’t feel the sorrow, when I can’t do what others are doing, but all that helps me feel alive. I can express my emotions, but I can’t run wild and free, my mind and soul would handle it but hell upon my hip, ankle and knees, I never wanted to be that girl, horrid, sad and faded… so I had to take all this with a grain of salt, my new found reality that I cannot stand on my legs, a dreadful feeling butI have to live with it, I am not of my pain, the disability does not define me. I find a way to adjust because I will have to do that for the rest of my life. When a warrior gets tested; They grow from the ashes, hopefully I would also do that. (though I have not seen Aafiya, I have based my interpretation of her mental state on a few disabled kids on wheelchairs doing very well on wheelchairs).
I think everyone knows about Stephen Hawking, one of the great scientists who spent most of his life in a wheelchair did say once, ‘If you are disabled, it is probably not your fault, but it is no good blaming the world or expecting it to take pity on you. One has to have a positive attitude and must make the best of the situation that one finds oneself in; if one is physically disabled, one cannot afford to be psychologically disabled as well. In my opinion, one should concentrate on activities in which one’s physical disability will not present a serious handicap. I am afraid that the Olympic Games for the disabled do not appeal to me, but it is easy for me to say that because I never liked athletics anyway. On the other hand, science is a very good area for disabled people because it goes on mainly in the mind. Of course, most kinds of experimental work are probably ruled out for most such people, but theoretical work is almost ideal. My disabilities have not been a significant handicap in my field, which is theoretical physics. Indeed, they have helped me in a way by shielding me from lecturing and administrative work that I would otherwise have been involved in. I have managed, however, only because of the large amount of help I have received from my wife, children, colleagues and students. I find that people in general are very ready to help, but you should encourage them to feel that their efforts to aid you are worthwhile by doing as well as you possibly can.’ That is the way one has to go about it. Yes you need help but the efforts have to be put in. If a disability is in one part of the body make the best use of the other because they could be doubly strong.
Eleven year old Aafiya Ishaq, D/o Ishaq Ahmad Mir R/o Marwa Village was identified to have disability due to Chromosomal Aberration (a chromosome abnormality, chromosomal anomaly, chromosomal aberration, chromosomal mutation, or chromosomal disorder, is a missing, extra, or irregular portion of chromosomal DNA. Chromosome anomalies usually occur when there is an error in cell division following meiosis or mitosis. She had been born with it and thus was suffering from a disease that no one wants to and that was paralysis. But as I told you before that was her destiny but then something happened and things began falling into places:
During the conduct of workshop for specially disabled persons on 23 June 2021 by Indian Army, Langate in coordination with Gujarat based NGO, ‘Spreading Smile Charitable Trust’ it was detected that the Aafiya needed a wheelchair.
The trust works with one dedicated aim and that is ‘Seva Hi Jeevan’. Inspired by Pujya Bhaishri Rameshbhai Oza, Spreading Smiles Charitable Trust is working towards making a difference in the field of Health, Education and Swachhta. Operating in Vadodara, Gujarat. Mrs Tripti Pandit and Mr Dhiraj Pandit disciple of P P Bhaishri, founded Spreading Smiles in 2015. Making a difference to the society is their aim and vision, which manifests in the activities of the Trust. This was what I meant with divine intervention. In Aafiya’s case perhaps it had arrived.
Army raised the issue and request with the civil administration in coordination with Mrs Nishtha Thakar, Managing Director, a wheelchair was collected from Disbaled Wing, Chief Education Office, Kupwara by the Army in Langate.
The Wheel chair has been handed over to the family of the girl in presence of the opinion makers of the area and a team from Sub District Hospital, Langate.
The local populace along with senior citizens of the area expressed their gratitude for such an initiative which will definitely help the child out because now she would be able to move on wheels. This is yet another beginning for small Aafiya to carve out a niche for herself in her life of hers. If so many people on the globe have done great wonders on the wheels then why not this small kid?
Indian army believes in one great thing and that is with one kind gesture you can change a life. One person at a time you can change the world. One day at a time we can change everything. In our lives we all come across many situations which we think are extremely bad and resign to the fact that life is not worth living. Aafiya was experiencing this wretched feeling almost every day but then someone with something came along out of nowhere and extended to her the simplest of kind gestures, that made her feel so deeply within her heart and the face glowed up to depict that impactful feeling in her life!